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Taking action and the Action Matrix

How do you take action? Specifically, how do you decide to take action? How do you decide what to take action on?

The best way I have found to decide where to take action is described by Dr. Stephen Covey. Dr. Covey relates the use of a “quadrant system”. You see, every action in life can be classified by these two things: the level of importance, and the level of urgency. Read More

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The link between the ‘feeling of success’ and the ‘attainment of our wants’

The story below is contained in “CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE SOUL, A Second Helping”. The author is unknown:
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Three cowboys had been on the range since early in the morning. One of them was a member of the Navajo Nation. Being busy with herding stray cattle all day, there had been no time for the three of them to eat. Toward the end of the day, two of the cowboys started talking about how hungry there were and about the huge meals they were going to eat when they reached town. When one of the cowboys asked the Navajo if he was also hungry, he just shrugged his shoulders and said, “No”

Later that evening, after they had arrived in town, all three ordered large steak dinners. As the Navajo proceeded to eat everything in sight with great gusto, one of his friends reminded him that less than an hour earlier he had told them that he was not hungry. “Not wise to be hungry then,” he replied, “No Food.”
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While this story may over simplify the issue of desire and need, it teaches us an important message. Years ago someone told me that to feel truly successful we need to do one of two things:
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Relationships and Communication

It could be said that communication is the single most important aspect of successful relationships. If it were said, I would agree with it. Unfortunately it is not said enough, probably because of ineffective communication.

Often in our relationships with our spouse, friends or business associates we are unclear in our communication, and in our listening. Read More

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“Ask Not What You Can Expect of Life…”

In our jobs, relationships, friendships, and the rest of our lives, we often wonder what we are getting ‘out of them’.

John F. Kennedy said, “Ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country”. This is an extremely powerful question. It can be used for any area of your life, and in fact it can be used with regard to your whole life. Victor Frankl said, “Ask not what you can expect of life – ask what life expects of you.”
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HeartMath – When you measure something, it tends to improve.

As you may remember from my April 27, 2009 article, “You Never Know”, I told you about how Elise and I met Howard Martin and Deborah Rozman, two of the founders and developers of HeartMath.

When Elise first mentioned HeartMath’s emWave Personal Stress Reliever®, I had no idea what she was talking about, and I assumed it was some new age gimmick or another. But when I met Howard and Deborah, that all changed – I was impressed and moved. Read More

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HONESTY – Is your word your bond?

Have you ever heard someone say, “My word is my bond”? Did you believe them? Was it you? Did you believe you?

When asked, most people will tell you that honesty is ‘one of their highest’ values, but is it really? And if it is, are they living up to this value? There are two types of honesty; that which you have with others and, that which you have with yourself. Unfortunately if someone fails at the ‘self-honesty’ then they can hardly be honest with others. Read More